The great energy of LGGO groups

It's to me quite amazing how much we can ignore some simple concepts that are so hugely important to our wellbeing.

In a LGGO meeting recently we got talking about what "great outcomes" really mean.

As it occurred to me during the meeting (that's the great rousing energy of the groups), I realised that if we're thinking about anything that is "heavy" (unpleasant,, burdensome) then that's not helping us achieve 'great outcomes', because .... well, great outcomes are "great" .. they're light, wonderful, good, inspiring, desired, uplifting, energising, enervating states of beling.

Anything that isn't great is not helping us get there. Simple analogy: We want to get to Melbourne. Do we think, "oh, I hate Brisbane, I really don't like the heat, and the ...". No, it's not relevant to how we get to Melbourne.

One of the group members started drawing on the whiteboard bubbles off to the side of what we want ('great outcomes'). Those bubbles represent 'heavy' things that really amount to stuff that by definition, is not what we want. If they draw our attention and energy, then we're helping to grow those bubbles. We're 'cementing' them into our lives.

And yet at various points in the meeting the conversation kept coming back, landing inside those 'heavy' unwanted bubbles.

What was amazing was to watch and feel how the mood changed when we switched focus to "well, what would be a great outcome for you", as opposed to talking about what was weighing that person down.

Subsequent to the meeting, I was chatting with one of the members present about those bubbles.

I mentioned a television show when I was young, "Lost in Space" in which Dr Smith would call the robot, "You bubble-headed boobie". "Yes, I used to watch that as well," she admitted. So I said, "well then, if you keep talking about all those things you don't want, all those bubbles, I'll have to start calling you a bubble-headed boobie"

We laughed, but also recognised the habit of being 'bubble-headed'.

Is that what we want, to be "bubble-headed boobies"?

Nah, let's remember the lightness, the fun, the fulfilment and the "hard-work" that becomes somehow uplifting and fulfilling when it's helping us get 'great outcomes'.

But doesn't "insourcing the masculine" in order to get what we want mean being heavy? Absolutely not, its about having firm boundaries, clear focus while being easy with our place and space in life.

It's both, focused while being free, firm while being fun.